One of my close friends came over to my apartment last Friday night and in between baking oatmeal raisin cookies and watching a 90’s “horror” film featuring a young Alicia Silverstone, he was joking that I don’t exist when he isn’t around. It’s possible that I’m only playing a supporting role in his life and not a living, breathing creature with my own life that moves forward when he isn’t there to see it. I sarcastically agreed with him and we had a good belly laugh. If you picture a straight line in a one dimensional plane, on one end is the perspective that every human being is important and their needs should be given consideration. On the other end is the perspective that this world is mine, and my needs will always be met before the needs of others aka… “It’s my world and you’re just living in it!” 


When you’re interacting with family, friends, co-workers, strangers on the street, where do you see yourself between these two opposing viewpoints? Eff the selfish funk and evaluate your actions. Keep a running tally in the next few days. There is no need to share this information with anyone and try not to judge yourself. I strongly believe that when you give, you receive. If you’re only concerned with looking out for your own needs, you’re missing an opportunity to enrich the lives of the people you care about most, which will then come back to you. I don’t know about you, but I get by with a little help from my friends.