One of my close friends recently purchased an apartment in the West Village. I won’t give you her address, but let’s just say it’s likely she’ll run into SJP and kids-in-tow on her way out the door. After seeing her block the first thing I said was, “You’re really in the sweet spot.” If you like downtown Manhattan, it’s hard to find a better area. She worked hard and waited a long time to find and secure the right place. This is one situation where she was not willing to make many concessions. It makes sense, right? If you’re going to make a large purchase then it should be exactly what you want.

If you’re not paying attention, it’s easy to rack up a long list of concessions because in the moment they seem smaller and less important than something big like buying a piece of real estate. For example, concessions pop up in relationships, both romantic and nonromantic. Relationships are built on compromise. The question is, have you struck a balance? One for me, one for you… If it looks more like “one for you, two for you, three for you… Oh, quelle surprise! Another pour vous!” you should probably check-in with yourself. Are you visible in this relationship at all? What happened to your wishes, your goals? It’s easy to lose track of your concessions if it happens in small doses over time. Eff the funk and surround yourself with people who can meet you halfway in the sweet spot. It takes effort to get there but it’s a quiet, gorgeous, tree-lined block oozing with charm.