Archives for the month of: May, 2012

Or as they say it in New Orleans, “Laissez-les-bons-temps-rouler!” You may feel guilty about eating a bit too much or drinking a bit too much, but tomorrow isn’t promised so indulge when you’re at your wits end. Eff the funk and take a trip to New Orleans, Louisiana!

The honest-to-God’s-truth? Even on a Sunday night Bourbon Street smells like vomit, but there are many other places to indulge in guilty pleasures in N’awlins. Bourbon Street is like the Times Square of NOLA: cheap, dirty thrills, neon lights, souvenir t-shirts, and strange crowds. Take a stroll down it one night just to take in the essence and then keep it moving.

Outside of Bourbon Street there are delicious restaurants to eat at, a wide range of activities to experience, and a multitude of to-go drinks to be had.

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Today marks one year since my friend’s boyfriend died from Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia. He was diagnosed at age 23. He was an excellent writer and kept a blog throughout his treatment chronicling his experience. You can read it here.

Please think of those who you have lost prematurely and do the following:

1) Go for regular check-ups. I haven’t been to a primary physician in a few years so I made an appointment yesterday.

2) Eff the funk and check the “to-dos” off your list. Take that painting class, move to a better location, improve your relationship with your parents, save for your ideal vacation… there’s no time to waste.

If you would like to donate to The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society here is their website.

It’s ideal to pretend that my credit card statement isn’t a direct result of my actions. I’m good at displaying a look of surprise when really I should be more embarrassed that I didn’t have an idea of the current balance before logging into my account online. Eff the financial funk and whip that budget into shape. When you’re spending is out of whack it can cause unnecessary stress. Wouldn’t you like to avoid that and maintain your cool-as-a-cucumber status?

A mere five days ago I signed up for the service HelloWallet – think Quicken but for the app generation. I felt comfortable handing sensitive financial information over to this company because a) my company invited them to set up shop in our cafe for the day, b) the HelloWallet executive team has an impressive composite resumé, and c) they have been featured and applauded in all of the major newspapers.

What can it do???? What can’t it do?! Here are some screenshots I found. There is a free app but you can work within the regular website also.

  • Link your savings/checking accounts and credit card to one account using high security technology
  • Categorize all spending and sort it within your predetermined budget for the month
  • Provide weekend spending guidance: I received an email Friday afternoon with a suggested weekend budget based on the amount I budgeted for the month for “groceries,” “restaurants,” and “fun times & bars.”
  • Clarifies which spending habits are hurting savings
  • And much more…

This service is $8.95/month for individuals and includes the guarantee that they will not to sell your financial information (spending habits) to anyone. I’m lucky enough that my company is currently paying that monthly fee. Contact your HR department if you’re interested in signing up. It can’t hurt to ask them to look into footing the bill. I would assume they receive a discounted rate for groups.

Please note that I’m not receiving compensation from HelloWallet for this post. I’m just a happy customer :)

Next March, my cousin Rachel will walk down the aisle and say “I do” to her fiancé Bryan. She’s one of three women I know who met her husband through a dating website. Pretty darn cool.

In reality, dating websites can be a lot of work (trial and error) and the experience can be discouraging. The whole goal is to get you out of your love funk, not push you further in so Rachel has agreed to share the 411 on what worked for her.

 The lovebirds: Bryan & Rachel

NUMÉRO UNO: INVEST TIME & ENERGY

Q: How would you describe your experience with online dating before you met Bryan?
A: Honestly, I went out with a lot of really nice guys with only a few losers and weirdos thrown in to make for some good stories but it was hard finding a nice guy I was excited about. As someone once told me, “you’re not buying a horse.” Just because someone was nice, had a good job, a car, loved his family, etc., it didn’t automatically mean we had chemistry.

Q: How many dates do you estimate you went on total?
A: I would say around 50 over the course of a couple of years.

Q: Which dating site did you use? Positive/negative things about the site?
A: I was on Match.com and a free site called plentyoffish.com. I found that I preferred match.com. My theory was that if the guy had to pay for this, he was taking it more seriously. Also, plentyoffish.com has a “looking for an intimate encounter” box that a lot of guys checked and was an immediate turnoff.

Q: What is your best piece of advice for someone who is new to online dating?
A: Go on lots of dates. It’s a numbers game. Like I said before, I met a lot of really nice guys but had to keep looking until I found a really nice guy I clicked with. Also, always talk on the phone at least once before you go out. It’s amazing how much you know about a person after a phone conversation. If they seem awkward on the phone, a date will be torture!

Q: What was the biggest learning curve you had to adjust to?
A: I had to remember that I don’t really know these people or what’s going on in their lives and I had to stop taking things personally when they didn’t work out. My exact words after my first date with Bryan were “he was nice but I’m not going to hear from him.” I was on a date with someone else when he called two days later.

Q: Which activities are ideal for a first date with someone you meet online?
A: I always liked going to dinner. If we hit it off, we went for drinks after, if not, “thanks for dinner!” After all of those dates, only one guy ever made me pay for my own meal so I was always up for a free dinner. If you’re not sure about the guy, keep it shorter and go for coffee.

NUMÉRO DOS: SELL YOUR UNIQUE BRAND

Lots of people like the beach and Italian food. Who cares? Unless you surf regularly or make a mean meatball, someone reading those facts in your profile will breeze on by without a second look. Figure out what sets you apart from the crowd and then promote it. You are a brand and you’re searching for your target market.

Do:

-Be honest with yourself and your potential matches

-Present yourself in a positive light

-Post at least three photos

-Make an effort to separate yourself from the crowd by showing your “best side”

-Edit your profile if you aren’t catching any fish

“Do” for profile photos: geek out/ham it up a bit to show your personality, appear to be approachable, leave a bit to the imagination when it comes to clothing

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Don’t:

-Be rude. If someone sends you a message and you aren’t interested the standard is to not respond or respond with a kind “Thank you, but I don’t see us as a match.”

-Post unflattering photos (think about lighting, wardrobe, etc)

-Be offended if you initiate contact and the other person isn’t interested. Do you want to force yourself on someone or find someone who wants to pursue you?

“Don’t” for profile photos: wear sunglasses indoors, wear work clothes/seem too into yourself, make it look like you aren’t interested in monogamy

NUMÉRO TRES: WATCH YOUR STOCK GROW

Try to keep in mind that stock at a start-up company doesn’t appreciate overnight. We can’t all be Google. You need to make it clear to the public that you’re ready to engage and then prepare to grow from the resulting experiences. Now get out there!

Additional references: Remember Priya from the MBA post? She heard I was writing about dating and recommended I read the book “Attached” by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. I haven’t read it yet but that shouldn’t stop you!